In this episode of Consistency with Grace.....a little bit more about Perfection.
Last time I told you how I stay in the consistency zone when it comes to my workouts. And I wanted to dive into that a little bit more and share more of my heart with you. You see, 'back in the day' I truly believed I had to be absolutely perfect in order to achieve success. This was true for many aspects of my life. Perfect grades, perfect house cleaning, perfection in how I approached workouts and my eating habits. It is all draining and it is unattainable. I was held down by this mental burden that if its not going to be perfect, it isn't worth doing. And by perfection in food, I mean essentially starving myself to be under the 1200 calorie mark on MyFitnessPal. I would workout without really a purpose or meaning behind it. I wandered around the gym, got winded on the elliptical for a few minutes, stretched and did some crunches, and then went home and ate a cupcake because I was still under that 1200 calories for the day. It was unhealthy, both physically and mentally, and most importantly it was inconsistent. And I felt like a failure for letting myself down again. I was also VERY dependent on the scale. I would be so focused on the DAILY number. It wasn't until I was pregnant with Sam and after I had him that I really knew I had to change. I always knew I needed better habits and to get healthy, but when you can't pick up your 8lb baby from your knees on the floor and stand up without being in pain.....that wasn't going to fly with me. I NEEDED to be able to show him how to live a healthy and fulfilling life. So I joined my coach in December of 2015, Sam was three months old. In 2016 my coaching and health and fitness journey was an extreme learning curve to teach my mind that balance and grace is the only way it goes to really embrace this lifestyle. But this isn't about perfection. It is learning the habits and discipline of doing what makes me feel good every day. I feel good when I eat according to the 21 Day Fix container guide. I am not sluggish or so miserably full or ridden by heartburn. I feel great after I crush the workout on my schedule and sweat profusely and get sore the next day. I feel great drinking my Shakeology and knowing that I am getting in more nutrients than I could find anywhere else. I feel amazing knowing that my actions and love for other people is encouraging and motivating them to make differences in their own lives and for their families. The imperfection is what makes us real people. Real people with real lives and real things to do. Real reasons to be healthy and live happy lives. That is why I say Consistency with Grace. I give myself grace when my day doesn't go as planned and for whatever reason the workout or dialed in food didn't happen.
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I wanted to tell you how I stay consistent and balanced and live in Consistency with Grace. This is what I have found that is working best with me as I have navigated through this year long journey. Of course, this isn't set in stone, so it's open for the ebbs and flows of life.
Workouts My preference is to commit to a workout program. This is one reason why I love Beachbody programs. IT COMES WITH A CALENDAR! I don't have to guess what I am going to do or decide which workout I'm doing or which body part(s) I will work on...I don't have to make that decision. It does it for me. This is awesome for a variety of reasons. I'm not a personal trainer. Now my coach is, and she's amazing, and she knows her stuff. Her experience and advice is so valuable to me. But because the programs are designed for you you don't have to be a trainer or a fitness expert to do the workouts. They are designed specifically to get results and to work what the program focuses on. When one workout in the program is not your favorite, you do it anyway. This is great for me because I have some workouts that I like more than others. And while I don't favor the others as much, I get them done because that is what the calendar says. And I feel like a badass when I get done with it still. I don't have the option to skip certain workouts because I just don't feel like it. Not an option. I get it done and I know I crushed it when it's over. What is Workout Grace? Workout Grace is best defined as: The state of recognizing when an unexpected rest day is acceptable. Basically when to know that it's ok the workout didn't happen, despite your best effort. Rather than a..."I got lazy and didn't feel like it" excuse. When you commit to the program, there are going to be days where the workout just cannot happen. Stuff gets crazy, unforseeable events take place that totally mess up your plans. That's OK. Do you hear me?! It's OK. You ARE NOT a failure. You are not totally derailed and unforgiveably forsaken to the land of Losers. We are perfectly imperfect and you don't wallow (or at least for long, it's normal to be a little bummed in the moment) and you don't let it stop you from trying again tomorrow. When I miss a workout on the calendar I put a little * to it. Now the more * means the more make ups and until they are done the program isn't over for me. So I try not to skip too many when I am fully committed to the program. So when stuff gets in the way and I miss a day (*cough cough*) or two workouts I work really hard to not let it get to me. Example, I am committing to P90x3 starting January 2nd. This is a 90 day program. My goal is to not miss and make up more than 1 week's worth of workouts. Now in 21 Day Fix, I limit that to 1-3 workouts over the whole 21 days. You set your goal. A lot of people have a catchy workout rule. 'Never miss a Monday' is a popular one. I love this one and I find it true that a Monday sweat really sets the whole week up for good times. But my mantra is that I don't go more than 3 days without a workout. One day, ok...two days...gah ok it's fine it's fine......by day three I'm feeling like "Seriously, Burlie, what's going on here". And on the 4th day, it's gotta happen. I find that after 4 days is when I really feel like I'm off the wagon and that loss of momentum and consistency is REALLY HARD to get back. Doable? Absolutely. But it's not easy and that's why I like my 3 day rule. How to control Consistency and when to extend that Grace How do you know when your excuse is acceptable? *Insert AMAZING TRIBE HERE* This is a group of supporters that encourages you in your health and fitness and life in general goals. They help control when to extend Grace and when to buckle down and crush the excuse and kill the workout. When you have daily check ins for ups and downs and sweaty selfies and food victories....it is truly the accountability that keeps you in the momentum and disciplined mode. You care because they care and we are there to support each other. So in Consistency in Grace : Workout edition conclusion 1. Commit to a workout schedule/program. It's written down and you do the workout. Don't avoid the ones you dislike. 2. Write down the ones that you miss....and by golly you're making them up at the end. 3. Don't miss more than 3 workouts in a row. Keep the momentum going! 4. Get a tribe that cares about you and your goals! Do you need one? :) see my Let's Connect tab! I'd be honored for you to join us and share your triumphs and struggles and results in your unique journey. I have loved 2016 for many reasons. It was little man's first full year of life. We have experienced so many firsts and new things that I wish I had videoed the whole thing so I could watch it over and over again. I have some of it documented, but I wish I could replay the first crawl and steps and last snuggles and little snores and.....ahhh. I'm tearing up. This little man has grown to be a 2T wearing, running and jumping and jabbering 15 month old and he doesn't have time for mommy snuggles right now! There's too much playing to do!
I am also so proud of so many accomplishments that I have achieved over the last year. I have completed PiYo, T25, and several rounds of 21 Day Fix. I'm a 365er in my Shakeology and it's been one of the healthiest years of my adult life. I have rarely been sick, I have more energy than I thought I would have with a 15 month old, and I love the simplicity and hassle freeness that Shakeology brings me. I have zero'd in on my nutrition...I've also been able to be pretty balanced during the times where I wasn't super strong hold focused on the dialed in version. I've lost 25 pounds and a pants size. I've gained irreplaceable friendships, a stronger sense of my relationship with God, and more confidence and self love. I've learned what it is to be a (less guilty feeling) mommy of a crazy toddler and how important it is to value yourself and other relationships will follow. I've gone through the ebbs and flows of the year and am learning to balance my health and fitness journey and business with the rest of my life. I've had hard fast non-negotiables in the year that have slowly gave way to the end of summer and holidays. And I'm excited for what year 2 has to bring! January 2nd, 2017 is going to be a great day! Why? Because Mondays have grown on me and the 2nd is the ultimate Monday to hit the reset button. HARD. I am dialing in on the nutrition again, starting a new program, and making plans to stay consistent to my tribe. We are a great team together and the New Year is a great time to bring it back and make sure that we know we are all in this little thing called life together. I wouldn't trade any of my tribe members for anything. They each bring their own unique story and struggles and triumphs to the table and they are all worth celebrating results and success in 2017. They say it takes a village to raise a kid. Absolutely 100% true. It also takes a village to raise each other up in our health and fitness journeys. Perfection? No. Consistency with Grace is the theme of 2017. And I want you to be a part of it too. Send me a message or email me at [email protected] and we can ride this amazing journey together. Wow! It certainly has been a while since I have blogged, although I must say just about every other day I have a post idea in my head that just never makes it on 'paper'. I have several excuses and reasons why I've been MIA on my blog and pages lately. Hang with me here on this post.
Now I had a fabulous coworker, that still happens to be a great friend, that said something one day during our work time together that has stuck with me ever since. And I honestly try to live by this now everyday. (something to the effect of....{i'm terrible with exact quotes lol]..) Don't tell me your complaints/excuses without solutions....otherwise bitching is just bitching and nothing will be solved or changed. Wow. Mic drop, right? I can't expect anyone to solve my woes, I have to at least have some sore of solution or idea to start the bounce off of to really change my mindset/situation. So here are my excuses on where I've been and my solutions to get me to where I am going instead. Excuse: Over the last few months I was questioning my drive as a coach. Honestly I didn't have it in me to do what I thought I needed to do to be successful, and have a full time job, and be a great mom, and a great wife, and a great bestie and sister, AND do the more mundane things of life like dishes and laundry. I have been evaluating my system for the last few months and tweaking and revamping and rethinking.... Solution: I've done a lot of soul searching, talking with my coach/dear friend about my business goals, and overall just really evaluating my priorities. I have come to realize that I don't need to reinvent the wheel here. I just need to be me, but with boundaries. I have now become more familiar with how to set boundaries to separate business vs friendships vs mom/wife/general Burlie life. Setting boundaries and a plan with my own goals in mind are going to send me to where I need to be. (which I'll talk more about how I see my sucesses in my next post) Excuse: In the past I used to have to type my posts on my phone or on my older computer that...likes to skip and jump around and all over just frustrate me before I just throw my hands in the air in defeat. Solution: Santa has granted me a Bluetooth keyboard for my Kindle (in option instead of a crazy $$$ iPad Pro or Surface Pro with a keyboard, why not use what I have and hardly use?!) I am typing on it right now and it is a dreaaaaammmm! No skipping and jumping around, it's light and easy to use and I am in love. So no more technology/effective typing woes. yay! I could list more that involves time, energy, etc, but I will save them for a different time because this is getting long and they will be great reminders for other things besides business related. Thanks for hanging in there with me on this post, and expect more in the very near future....including recipes, inspiration/motivation, and in general Burlie health and fitness and mom and wife and life posts. I hope you enjoy them :) What tips or recipes, or topics would you like to see on the blog? xo, Burlie |
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